Building A Healthy Self-Esteem

Building A Healthy Self-Esteem

By: Ashley Marie Lazaroo

                Self-esteem is something everyone needs. It is something that gives you confidence in yourself, something that makes you believe in yourself. I for one had really low self-esteem at one point in my life. I thought I had no purpose here on Earth. Well I’m going to tell you how I boosted my self-esteem and how it helped me and how it can help you as well.

                Firstly, I needed to discover myself. I had to find my true-self. Each one of us has a talent. You may not know it at first but you will find it for sure. Based on my experience, there was a point in my life where I thought I had no talent at all, I would always try and search and find what my talent was. But then it hit me, that my talent will come naturally, I can’t force it. 

               Secondly, I listed my strengths down. Your strengths are something that will help boost the confidence you have in you. Once you know your strengths, you will see that you’re much more than you think you are. Moreover, I realized I shouldn’t compare myself to others. I used to do that on a daily basis and it used to bring me down a lot. Many people do that and they tell themselves that they’re not as great as that other person. But then I realized that everyone is special in their own ways. Well guess what, you are great and you are you. There’s only one of you and you should embrace it.

                Next, having a positive attitude. Stop overthinking! I used to overthink about so many things. Even the littlest of things I would make it a big problem. I would get so worried and I wouldn’t know how to control it but now I know that the only way to control it is to not overthink the problem. Over thinking leads into anxiety and that leads into negative thinking. I shouldn’t have looked down on myself. If you have a positive mind, your self-esteem will surely increase. Besides that, you should try self-improvement. Try and improve the things that you think you should improve about yourself. Not physically but mentally. Try and improve all the bad habits you have or all the negative thinking.

                Knowing that no one is perfect is another way I build a healthy self-esteem. Know that everyone has their imperfections and no one can be perfect. I thought that I had to be someone great in order to be a perfect human being. But the truth is that no one is perfect. In addition to that, I took risks that I thought I could never do. Don’t be afraid. I kept telling myself “you won’t know it till you try it”. Taking risks actually helped me to build up my confidence. It allowed me to discover my strengths.

                I also tried waking up happy. Waking up knowing that there is so much love in the world. Thinking about all the great things around me Such as my parents, my friends, the beautiful flowers, and so much more. Having a balanced life helps a lot in building a healthy self-esteem. I tried and spread my activities out. Don’t live a rushed life. Make a schedule to help you.

                Not only that, I learnt not to hate myself. I realized that I should love myself and treat myself right. Hating yourself will only hurt you. Moreover, I reviewed my progress, looked back on how I did. Set goals for myself. Once I achieved those goals, I felt so much better about myself. Not only that, I discovered my strength and hidden talents along the way.

                In addition to that, knowing that many people love me helped a lot. Many people nowadays think they’re unloved. But little do they know, that there is always that one person who loves them no matter what. They just don’t know it. Last but not least, many people think that they were put on this Earth for no reason. Everyone has a reason to be here on Earth. That reason is, you have been put here to be you because no one else can be you.

                In conclusion, building a healthy self-esteem made me a better person. It taught me and showed me that I am beautiful inside and out. Don’t let anyone put you down. But most importantly, don’t put yourself down. Lift your head high and know who you are and that you are you.